Posts Tagged ‘Character’

Become A Significant Leader

March 16, 2014

Are you a leader who wants to take your leadership to the next level?

If so…then you need to come to a FREE leadership summit I will be hosting at Family Harvest Church on March 28-29, 2014. (You can register here) http://www.significant14.org/registration

 

At this leadership Summit my father, Peter Daniels, and I will be diving into topics such as…

  • Why REPUTATION matters and how to build a solid one.
  • Why it is vital to the longevity and influence of the church to reach out to the business community, and practically how to do so.
  • The top 5 reasons why leaders fail. And why you WILL succeed.
  • How to LEAD courageously in the midst of those who refuse to do what is right.

Following the Summit on Saturday, will be a rare Question & Answer Luncheon hosted at the beautiful Crystal Tree Country Club. There is a small fee for the luncheon, and you can sign up for this when you register.

For those who want to know a bit more as to why I am hosting this event. Here you go…

The Significant Leadership Summit is designed to 1) inspire, 2) develop, and 3) equip you as a leader, to make the greatest impact on those you have been given the privilege to lead. Peter J. Daniels and myself will share the secrets of what we have learned about leading others.

You DO NOT have to be in management or leadership position to benefit from this Summit. This is for ALL leaders in ANY capacity OR non-church job that wants to improve as a leader. (Local hotels are listed on the conference website.)

 

It will most likely challenge you like never before… 

The Power Of Mentorship

February 21, 2014

Who Is Mentoring You? One Of The Surest Ways To Predict A Person’s Future Is To Identify At Who’s Table Do They Sit… I Cannot Change Your Life Until I Change The Counsel You Embrace…

The Power Of Mentorship Cannot Be Overemphasized In Achieving Greatness…

A Mentor Is Not Just To Offer Advice… A Mentor Is A Trusted Advisor In Life…

A Mentor Is Not The Person Who Gives You Advice; A Mentor Is The Person Whose Advice You Follow…

I Can’t Change Your Life Until I Know Who’s Words Matter To You…

So What Is Mentorship?

Mentorship Is Learning From Someone Else’s Pain…

Mentorship Is Learning From Another’s Mistakes…

Mentorship Is Learning Without The Wait…

When You Ask Enough Questions You Attract The Right Answers…

• Who Are 3 People Who Can Learn From?
• What Questions Should You Be Asking Them?

Word Of Caution: Don’t Try To Learn Everything From One Person…

• The Electric Company Doesn’t Furnish Me Water.
• The Water Company Doesn’t Furnish Me A Car.

Are You Listening To The Right People?

Listen To A Man Who Wants You To Succeed…
Listen To A Man Who Cares About Your Future… He’ll Help You Avoid Pain…
Listen To Those Who Are Troubled By The Losses In Your Life…
Listen To Those Who Are Excited When You Find What Pleasures & Excites You…
Listen To Those Who Are Excited About Your Dreams, Your Goals, Your Plans…

Listen To Counsel…

Every Person Who Has Failed, Simply Listened To A Wrong Voice…
Every Person Who Has Succeed Simply Listened To The Right Voice…
Listen To People Who Have A Track Record Of Right Decisions…
Listen To People Whose Decisions Prove Their Success…
Listen For The Unspoken Invisible Message…
Listen To Silence As Much As You Listen To Words…

Who Then Is A Mentor?

A Mentor Is Not A Friend…

Your Friends Love You The Way You Are, Your Mentor Loves You Too Much To Leave You The Way You Are.

Your Friends Are Comfortable With Your Weakness; Your Mentor Will Remove Weakness From You.

Your Friends Are Comfortable With Your Past, Your Mentor Is Uncomfortable Until You Enter The Future…

Let Me Give You 3 Thoughts To Think About…

1. It Is Impossible To Change Your Life Until You Change Those You Listen To (Mentor)…

2. Your Mentor Is Not Your Best Friend… They Are A Door Into The Future…

Ruth…

Ruth 1:8-17 (Message) After A Short While On The Road, Naomi Told Her Two Daughters-In-Law, “Go Back. Go Home And Live With Your Mothers. And May God Treat You As Graciously As You Treated Your Deceased Husbands And Me. May God Give Each Of You A New Home And A New Husband!” She Kissed Them And They Cried Openly. They Said, “No, We’re Going On With You To Your People.” But Naomi Was Firm: “Go Back, My Dear Daughters. Why Would You Come With Me? Do You Suppose I Still Have Sons In My Womb Who Can Become Your Future Husbands? Go Back, Dear Daughters—On Your Way, Please! I’m Too Old To Get A Husband. Why, Even If I Said, ‘There’s Still Hope!’ And This Very Night Got A Man And Had Sons, Can You Imagine Being Satisfied To Wait Until They Were Grown? Would You Wait That Long To Get Married Again? No, Dear Daughters; This Is A Bitter Pill For Me To Swallow—More Bitter For Me Than For You. God Has Dealt Me A Hard Blow.” Again They Cried Openly. Orpah Kissed Her Mother-In-Law Good-Bye; But Ruth Embraced Her And Held On. Naomi Said, “Look, Your Sister-In-Law Is Going Back Home To Live With Her Own People And Gods; Go With Her.” But Ruth Said, “Don’t Force Me To Leave You; Don’t Make Me Go Home. Where You Go, I Go; And Where You Live, I’ll Live. Your People Are My People, Your God Is My God; Where You Die, I’ll Die, And That’s Where I’ll Be Buried, So Help Me God—Not Even Death Itself Is Going To Come Between Us!”

3. Your Mentor Is More Important To Your Dream Than You Are…

Elisha Needed Elijah…
Joshua Needed Moses…
Paul Needed Barnabas…
Timothy Needed Paul…
Now… Who Do You Need?

As A Mentor… What Information Do You Make Available To Others…

Spotlighting Others Helps Make Them Successful, Be Trustworthy, Embrace Responsibility, Set The Example, Always Be The Bigger Person, Make A Big Deal Of Little Things, Keep The Team Focused On What Is Important, Build A Strong Inner-Circle And Whole Heartedly Support The 1st In Command…

Let Me Be More Specific…

-As A Mentor I Am Not Responsible For Another Mans Growth, But I Am Accountable To Reward The Growth I Find…

• Encourage, Support, And Guide Your Apprentice In Business (And Character)…
• Be Patient With Your Apprentice And Build A Trusting Relationship (E.G., Share The Challenges Of Your Journey Where It Is Valuable)
• Be Sensitive To The Apprentice’ Life Situations
(I.E. Class, Family, Culture)
• Teach The Apprentice Core Success Principles, On How To Perform Routine Tasks And Problem Solve
• Emphasize Honesty, Accuracy And Reliability
• Ask Your Apprentice Questions About Mentoring & Their Future Goals…
• Consistently Monitor The Progress Of An Apprentice
• Sincerely Respect Anyone Who Postures As An Apprentice…

The Manifesto Of The Apprentice…

As An Apprentice… I Promise To…

1. Focus:

The #1 Reason For Failure Is Broken Focus.
You Must Close The Gap Between What You Know And What You Do. Stop Considering The Price Of Focusing And Consider The Cost Of Not.
Often, You Will Have Many Voices Speaking To You, Many Suggestions And Ideas… But You Must Choose To Focus On The One You’ve Chosen To Follow.

2. Humility:

A Wise Learner Remembers To Listen Instead Of Speak When They Are With Those They Have Chosen To Follow…
There Is A Reason Why The Person In Front Of You Had Success… Learn From Them, Don’t Criticize Them…
Keep Learning And Keep A Teachable Heart. Never Come To The Place Where You Turn Off Your Openness To Learn Something New.
Unless You Jump On The Bandwagon, You Will Never Enjoy The Rewards Of Your Leader’s Strengths And Insights.
The Sooner You “Buy Into” The Vision Of Your Mentor The Sooner You Will Experience The Rewards Of Their Strength.

3. Respect:

Respect Is The Hinge That Swings The Big Door Of Favor…
There Is No Prize For The ‘Self Made Man’ So Be Willing To Openly Honor & Respect Those Who Have Invested In You The Time And Lessons That Have Shaped Who You Are.
Be On Time, Keep Your Word And Show You Value The Time Your Mentor Is Investing.
Never Trivialize Or Take Lightly Something That Is Important To Your Mentor.

4. Gratitude:

Gratitude Is The Fragrance The Nurtured Flower Gives Back To The One Who Has Cared For It…
Gratitude Changes The Spirit Of Any Environment… It Makes It Vibrant & Whole. An Ungrateful Person May Be Smart But Their Haughty Perspective Will Leave Them Abandoned… Gratitude Balances Any Unequal Equation In Relationship…
Resist The Pressure Not To Take Time To Show Someone You Are Grateful… It’s Becoming A Lost Art… So Say, ‘Thank You,’ Write The Card, Send The Email, Make The Call…
When You’re Grateful And Show Honor Towards Your Mentor, Their Words Become Part Of You Instead Of Just Being Heard By You…
Gratitude Finishes In You What Faith Started In You…

5. Success:

-Be Specific About What You Want To Learn From Your Mentor…
-Show Your Mentor That You Have Acted On What They Have Invested…
-Act Immediately… Lodi (Law Of Diminishing Interest… The Longer You Wait, The More Likely That You Will Not Act)

The Law Of The First… What You Do First Will Determine What They Do Second. Set The Tone.

Don’t Aim For Success Because It Takes You Further. Aim For Success Because It Takes The People Around You Further And The People Above You Higher…
Your Mentor Is Only As Good As You Are…

6. Perspective:

You Must Keep The Perspective That Your Reward Comes From God And Not Man.

7. Attitude:

It’s Not About What You Do For Your Mentor…It’s How They Feel About What You Do That Matters…
You Can Solve Problems All Day Long But If Your Attitude Is Wrong And They Feel Like You No Longer Want To Contribute To Their Success…It Doesn’t Matter What You Do.
You Can Buy An Assistant But You Can’t Buy A Protégé.

8. Purpose:

Your Purpose For Being In The Relationship Must Be To Give, Never To Receive…
The Reason Why You’re In The Relationship Must Be Based On Something Eternal. Otherwise, You Can Never Make It During Seasons Of Testing…

9. Expectation:

Don’t Live In The Relationship Expecting Something From Them.
Live In The Relationship Expecting To Give Something To Them.
Giving The #1 Way To Escape Disappointment.

10. Teachable:

A Teachable Heart Is A Soft Heart.
The Moment You Stop Being Teachable Is The Moment You Stop Being Mentored.

Is Honesty Really That Important?

September 30, 2010

Never Present On The Outside What You Do Not Live On The Inside

Webster’s defines honesty as honorable in principles, intentions and actions; sincere; frank; truthful. Honesty is the willingness to reveal your true motives. Honesty is similar to transparency, meaning full disclosure.

Honesty is a responsibility to yourself and to others. The foundation of your character cannot withstand the cracks of dishonesty. Every time you allow yourself to be dishonest, you weaken the strength of your character. Every crack reduces the strength of your foundation. Although a crack may be small today, it will eventually split the entire foundation.

Honesty does not change at home, work, or elsewhere. It is always the same. It is a way of thinking. People of honesty can hardly even imagine telling a lie. It’s just not in them. They have aligned themselves to the True God, and His life in them drives them to tell the truth. These people have a hard time believing that other people lie regularly, but they do!

Perceived Payoff:

Everyone does what they do because there is a perceived pay off. I use the word “perceived” because it is not necessarily true. An individual who is lazy has a perceived payoff. An individual who smokes perceives that the pleasure is worth the pain. Likewise, a dishonest individual lies or withholds truth because of the perceived payoff. In every case the payoff is immediate, but the negative costs are delayed. With a little foresight and wisdom, honesty becomes a much sweeter choice during trying times.

Truth always comes to the surface, if not in this lifetime, then in the next. And even if the truth never surfaces, the conscience is a constant, painful reminder. The murderer whose crime is never discovered may have gotten away from the law, but his memory torments him.

Half Truth – Full Lie:

People often lie to make themselves look better. Isn’t it interesting, though, that anyone we know who lies has a horrible reputation? Now, society doesn’t call this lying-it’s just stretching truth. It’s deceiving people without actually saying anything untrue. Nevertheless, honesty leaves no possibility for deception. Do you stretch the truth or hide revealing facts?

Although honesty may cost you in the beginning, you’ll experience the rewards in the end. The Scriptures tell us that the integrity of the righteous will deliver them. When you chose to become a person of honesty, you can rest assured that God will deliver you from unjust situations.


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